People say "misery loves company", what people fail to tell you is successful people attract other successful people to them. The exact polar opposite of the former statement. A good example of this is the couple who decide to reside together, become comfortable and end up going from physically fit to overweight.
In my line of business I have see this scenario play out time and time again, to the point that they each look at one another with the burning question, how did we get here? This is because you are the sum total of those you spend the most time with.
There's a saying, "show me your 5 closest friends and I'll show you where your life is heading". This statement happens to be true! Life is like a play and the show must go on... The front row at shows, concerts, ect. is usually reserved for VIPs.
You have to use that same philosophy in your life. The front row of your life should be reserved for people that build you up, not break you down. This holds true for health and fitness as well as. Surround yourself with people who will support you and your fitness journey, your decision to become a better version of yourself and people who take action instead of just talking about what they want to do.
4 things you should look for when developing your inner circle:
1. Compatibility - Look for people that are into the same things that you are into. Who are operating on the same wavelength that you are. Example: if you want to be a more positive person hang around positive people.
2. Experience - Look for someone who has done what you are doing and has done it successfully. When it comes to fitness this person would be your fitness coach or personal trainer. He or she will be able to lead you through the pitfalls and setbacks that come with changing your unhealthy lifestyle for a healthy one.
3. Like Values - John Maxwell stated that "values are the soul/ the energy that get you there...". The word there simply means to your goal. Whatever that goal is you have to find people that operate from the same or a similar set of values that you operate from. This will ensure that you are not engaging in any transactions that do not benefit all whom it affects. You have to look for people who fully understand that no wealth or position can long endure unless built upon truth and justice.
4. Loyalty - Look for someone who cares for you enough to tell you the truth even if telling you the truth will hurt. This person will not only tell you the truth but will also be loyal enough to stay in the trenches with you until the battle is won. The more you fight for the same goals together the stronger your bond will become. This is why coaches and athletes, trainers and clients and training partners all have strong bonds, life changing bonds when both let down their guards and truly try to help each other become better.
Go from a "me" to a "we" way of thinking and you will succeed. Ask yourself daily how you can make your inner circle better and while striving to make them better you will realize that by making them better you become better. When your whole inner circle is operating with this philosophy, you all become better and more successful together. Now get out there and analyze who should be siting in your front row....
Coach Jamel
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